“11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship” -Stephanie Sarkis Ph.D.

This is only a small part of an article from Psychology Today. It can be found in its entirety here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-signs-gaslighting-in-relationship

People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:

1. They tell blatant lies.

2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.

3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.

4. They wear you down over time.

5. Their actions do not match their words.

6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. 

7. They know confusion weakens people. 

8. They project.

9. They try to align people against you.

10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.

11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.

The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter’s trap.

Some looming deadlines of PetSmart Charities Inc….

A couple of the PetSmart Charities grant programs have fast-approaching deadlines:

Deadline: 30 June 2017

Intake Diversion: This grant category focuses on reducing pet homelessness by helping organizations make wellness services, behavioral training and education more accessible to pet parents.  https://www.petsmartcharities.org/pro/grants/intake-diversion

Keeping Pets and Families Together: This grant is dedicated to providing support through life’s toughest moments by creating resources for families facing homelessness, victims and survivors of domestic violence, and/or military leave that would enable them to keep their pet. https://www.petsmartcharities.org/pro/grants/keeping-pets-families-together

Their full calendar can be viewed here: https://www.petsmartcharities.org/pro/grants/grants-calendar

Happy Thanksgiving You Guys!!!  — “A BIG thanks, To Those in The House” -Mike Rowe

When I was a kid, my grandfather and I used to watch This Old House. I loved it, partly because I liked seeing how stuff got made, but mostly because my Pop would always tell me what Bob Vila was going to do a few seconds before he did it. 

Pop was an electrician by trade, but I always thought he was a magician. The man could fix anything. He could install your plumbing, overhaul your engines, or build your house without a blueprint. My earliest memories are of he and my Dad venturing out into the world to fix a problem. They left the house clean, came home dirty, and the problem was always solved. Pop only made it to the seventh grade, but he was smarter by far than most educated people I know, and mechanically gifted in ways I continue to envy. 

My foundation, mikeroweWORKS, was inspired by my granddad, and Dirty Jobs was really just an attempt to replicate the apprentice/master relationship between he and my dad. I’d like to think that This Old House might NOT have been his favorite reality show, had he lived long enough to see Dirty Jobs, but alas, that was not to be. So I’ve always had a soft spot for This Old House, and today, I’m very excited to tell you that the producers of this most unusual show – now in its 37th season – have partnered with mikeroweWORKS to help close the skills gap. 

The official press release is here. http://bit.ly/2fLdBLk. Check it out. I’ve also attached one of several short videos announcing our partnership. Give it a look, and join me in thanking Norm Abram for his kind support. In just a few weeks, they’ve already helped raise half a million dollars from their incredibly generous sponsors. That money is going straight to our scholarship fund. 

But wait, there’s more. 

In the coming year, the producers of This Old House are going to renovate a home over the course of the season, just as the always do. But this time, they’re going to sell the home, and contribute all of the proceeds to The mikeroweWORKS Foundation. It’s an extraordinary vote of confidence, and I can’t tell you how gratified and humbled I am to have their trust and partnership. 

On this Thanksgiving, I want to say how thankful I am for this association, and how much I’m looking forward to playing a small role in helping train the next generation of tradesmen, on whose talent, skill, and intelligence we all depend. Hopefully, Pop will be watching from on high, and telling his friends what happens next, moments before it does…

Happy Thanksgiving

Link to post: https://www.facebook.com/TheRealMikeRowe/videos/1343554558988017/

Millennials are People

Wow. 

What’s with the increase in millennial bashing lately?

It’s couched in supposed humor, but it’s hateful just the same.

And what’s truly ironic, to me anyway, is that half of these people who criticize millennials for things like, ‘not having real jobs’ and ‘wanting to gain fame and fortune for their actions on social media outlets’, are doing just that themselves?!?!

W? T? F?

Examples:

John Crist — https://youtu.be/RGvrmltfMrA

Micah Taylor — https://youtu.be/hLpE1Pa8vvI

How about we ALL just stop the hate. 

It’s getting just a bit soul crushing.

Find something positive to do with your lives.

A 40-agers thoughts: taking stock…

I’m trying to ‘take stock’ of my life and clean out stuff that I’ve been carting around for years — I guess both emotionally and physically. I’d like to return to being more physically active and get
back 
in shape. 
Of course it’s very difficult to change long term habits and also incorporate into the time required for my work/career responsibilities. 
We’ve been talking about finding ways to save and make money more. 

I really want to DO more stuff, including traveling, but those are fairly expensive undertakings. Just maintaining a ‘life’ here is relatively exorbitant, but it’s hard to imagine, or want, to live anywhere else. The physical environment (weather) is pretty perfect. :-/