“11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship” -Stephanie Sarkis Ph.D.

This is only a small part of an article from Psychology Today. It can be found in its entirety here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-signs-gaslighting-in-relationship

People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:

1. They tell blatant lies.

2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.

3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.

4. They wear you down over time.

5. Their actions do not match their words.

6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. 

7. They know confusion weakens people. 

8. They project.

9. They try to align people against you.

10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.

11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.

The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter’s trap.

A 40-ager’s thoughts… optimistic and hopeful. :-)

I think I’ve gotten back to a good frame of mind, one where I can make a concerted effort to improve myself physically and mentally. Started back again on 1 February to clean up my diet and get away from a/n (almost) sedentary lifestyle.

Goals:

* Exercise more in order to feel (and look) good physically.
* Continue to repair the strength to my shoulder (damage from accident).
* Once and for all complete the myriad of sewing projects cluttering my life.
* Clean out the excess ‘unnecessary plastic objects’ residing with us, to streamline the household.
* Take stock of the actual ‘things’ I own that cost money, and try and reduce some of that burden (cars, I find, are a weakness of mine). :-/
* Help my daughter attain her goals related to independence.
* Seek out opportunities to socialize more with new people and in new environments.

Here’s hoping! 🙂