“11 Signs of Gaslighting in a Relationship” -Stephanie Sarkis Ph.D.

This is only a small part of an article from Psychology Today. It can be found in its entirety here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-signs-gaslighting-in-relationship

People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:

1. They tell blatant lies.

2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof.

3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition.

4. They wear you down over time.

5. Their actions do not match their words.

6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. 

7. They know confusion weakens people. 

8. They project.

9. They try to align people against you.

10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.

11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.

The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter’s trap.

A 40-agers thoughts… more Duggar crap

While I have not kept up with the latest Duggar crap, nor watch their creepy ‘reality’ show, I was reading a Facebook post that my daughter had shared:

and though I do feel for the wife/mother/victim, this is one sentence that jumped out at me.

“Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids?”

The assumption, of course, is that SHE will be the one who must provide all, if not the majority, of the financial support for THEIR children. A truly crap part of our society and so-called child support system. The father gets to walk away from his responsibilities and simply provide a token amount of $s to the support of lives that he helped to create. 

One reason that women will never be ‘equal’ financially, because we are not equal in terms of how we view commitment and responsibility — and love.